Sunday, March 31, 2013

Just Keep Loving On Him

Occasionally, I see a look on Steve's face that says, this is only going to get worse, not better. I know God can heal him, but I don't know that Steve has much hope in that happening. I wonder sometimes, if we are being taught a lesson through all this why such big guns are needed.

I don't know where Steve's head is, because he doesn't talk about any end of life issues or what may happen between now and then. He is carrying a heavy load right now and it has made him sad and angry. I think if he were better with this, I would be too. But this needs to be about Steven and what can make this easier for him, so I don't push.

There is not a book out there that explains how to be a caregiver to a terminally ill husband who is not talking. I guess I just keep loving on him.


  1. I know how you feel about the no talking part. But maybe you should push a little. Maybe he is thinking he doesn't want to burden you with anything more. I pray that eventually this all will pass. Love you both!

  2. Denice,
    My name is Jeff Barnes. My wife Calley and I, along with our son Cade, lived directly across the street from you and Steve on Forest Road 4 years ago. I must say, I am saddened to hear of Steve's fight with cancer. Both you and Steve were the nicest neighbors and both you and him would always go out of the way to say "hello". My father had gotten cancer of the throat due to smoking and I know what you are going through. To watch a loved one go through this hurts knowing that there is nothing you can do to relieve their pain. My father had never talked of the Lord but my Mother was and still is a Christian and after years of praying she refused to stop at nothing to get him to become a believer. A week before he passed, a pastor stopped over to just check on him to see how he was doing so my Mother left the room. After minutes passed she peeked through the crack of the door and my Father was gripping the Pastor's hands tightly and crying as they were both in the midst of a prayer. He gave his life to Christ. If it wasn't for my Mother's persistent efforts, he may have never been saved because none of his family members were. Denice, God put you in Steve's life for a reason. Keep talking to him, keep reassuring him that God is with him, and even though he may not speak a word, he's truly listening. God Bless you both!

    1. Hi Jeff! How good to hear from you. I'll bet your two little boys have grown since I last saw them. I can't thank you enough for the encouragement. Your story touched me. I can just see what your mom saw as she peeked in that room. I too see God's plan in so much of this. Especially in the last week or two. Hugs to Callie, God bless.