They say that crisis and turmoil can either drive you apart, or bring you together in your marriage. I can be there for Steve, but not without the help I'm getting from family and friends. It is so hard to let people help, but if I put it in the context that the more I let others do, the more energy I can put into helping Steve, it is easier.
I was looking at lists of top stresses in life and the impact of long term stress. Here is one description of stress: When demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.
And then there is the number one stress at the top of every list. Let's just say, going to jail is number four.